dim什么意思：(最佳试讲课文)How to make a good impression

2020年11月29日发(作者：施仲衡)
How to make a good impression
1 Research shows we make up our minds about people through unspoken
communication within seven seconds of meeting them .Consciously or unconsciously ,we
show our true feelings with our eyes, faces, bodies and attitudes, causing chain of
reactions ,ranging from comfort to fear.
2 Think about you most unforgettable meetings: an introduction to you future spouse, a
job interview, an encounter with a stranger .Focus on the first seven seconds .what did
you feel and think? How did you “read” the other person? How did you think he read you?
3 You are the message. For 25 years I’ve worked with thousands who want to be
successful .I’ve helped them make persuasive presentations, answer unfriendly
questions ,communicate more effectively .The secret has always been you are the
message.
4 Others will want to be with you and help you if you use your good qualities .They
include : physical appearance , energy , rate of speech ,pitch and tone of
voice ,gestures ,expression through the eyes , and the ability to hold the interest of
others .Others form an impression about you based on these of others .
5 Think of times when you know you made a good impression .What made you
successful? You were committed to what you were talking about and so absorbed in the
moment ,you lost all self- consciousness.
6 Be yourself .Many how-to books advise you to stride into a room and impress others
with your qualities . They instruct you to greet them with “power handshakes” and tell you
to fix your eyes on the other person .If you follow all the advice, you’ll drive everyone
crazy-including yourself.
7 The trick is to be consistently you ,at your best . The most effective people never
change from one situation to another .They’re the same whether they’re having a
conversation, addressing their garden club or being interviewed for a job. They
communicate with their whole being,.the tones of their voices and their gestures match
their words .
8 Public speakers, however , often send mixed messages . My favorite is the kind who
say , “Ladies and gentlemen. I’m very happy to be here “while looking at their shoes .
They don’t look happy .They look angry , frightened or depressed.
9 The audience always believe what the see over what they hear .They think ,”He’s
telling me he’s happy ,but he’s not being honest.”
10 Use your eyes .Whether you’re talking to one person or one hundred , always
remember to look at them .Some people start to say something while looking right at you
but three words into the sentence ,they break eye contact and look out the window .
11 As you enter a room, move you eyes comfortably; then look straight at those in the
room an smile .Smiling is important. It shows you are relaxed .Some think entering a room
full of people is like going into a lion’s cage. I disagree. If I did agree, I certainly wouldn’t
look at my feet or at the ceiling. I’d keep my eye on the lion.
12 Lighten up. Once in a staff meeting , one of the most powerful chairmen in the
entertainment industry become very angry over tiny problems , scolded each worker and
enjoyed making them fear him . When he got me，he shouted, “And you , Ailes , what are
you doing ?”
13 I said, “Do you mean now，this evening or the rest of my life ?” There was a moment
of silence. Then the chairmen threw back his head and roared with laugher . Others
laughed too. Humor broke the stress of a very uncomfortable scene.
14 If I had to give advice in two words, it would be “lighten up”! You can always see
people who take themselves too seriously. Usually they are either brooding or talking a
great deal about themselves .
15 Take a good hard look at yourself .Do you say “I” too often? Are you usually focused on
your own problems? Do you complain frequently? If you answered yes to even one of
these questions, you need to lighten up .To make others comfortable, you have to appear
comfortable yourself .Don’t make any huge changes; just be you myself. You already
have within you the power to make a good impression, because nobody can be you as
well as you can.