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2021年1月11日发(作者：杜庆华)
Derek Sivers: Keep your goals to yourself
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About this talk
After hitting on a brilliant new life plan, our first instinct is to tell someone, but Derek
Sivers says it's better to keep goals secret. He presents research stretching as far back
as the 1920s to show why people who talk about their ambitions may be less likely to
achieve them.

About Derek Sivers
Through his new project, MuckWork, Derek Sivers wants to lessen the burdens (and
boredom) of creative people.

Transcript
Everyone, please think of your biggest personal goal. For real. You can take a second.
You've got to feel this to learn it. Take a few seconds and think of your personal
biggest goal, okay? Imagine deciding right now that you're going to do it. Imagine
telling someone that you meet today what you're going to do. Imagine their
congratulations and their high image of you. Doesn't it feel good to say it out loud?
Don't you feel one step closer already, like it's already becoming part of your identity?

Well, bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut, because that good feeling,
now will make you less likely to do it. Repeated psychology tests have proven that
telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen. Any time you have a goal,
there are some steps that need to be done, some work that needs to be done in order to
achieve it. Ideally, you should not be satisfied until you had actually done the work.
But when you tell someone your goal, and they acknowledge it, psychologists have
found that it's called a social reality. The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's
already done. And then, because you've felt that satisfaction, you're less motivated to
do the actual hard work necessary. So this goes against the conventional wisdom that
we should tell our friends our goals, right? -- so they hold us to it, yeah.

So, let's look at the proof. 1926, Kurt Lewin, founder of social psychology, called this

real in the mind. 1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this, and in 2009,
he did some new tests that were published.

It goes like this: 163 people across four separate tests -- everyone wrote down their
personal goal. Half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room, and
half didn't. Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work that would directly lead
them towards their goal, but they were told that they could stop at any time. Now,