禁果全新大学进阶英语综合教程2第三单元课文以及翻译

2021年1月14日发(作者：董哲芗)
1 I received an email from a reader who asked, “Why do some

friendships end, no matter how much you want them to last?”

She referred to提到 having seen the question in one of my articles,

Mystery神秘的事物，迷 of Friendship.
As I wrote in it, I don’t think easy
answers exist as to how friendships start, why some turn into lifetime

ones, and why some end. Although I’ve tried answering the

first two questions in other articles (
To Have A Friend
and
Be

A Friend
), I still get surprised by friendships that endure and

disillusioned使幻想破灭 by ones that slip away.消逝 Even so, I’ll try to offer
some insights洞察，深刻的见解 here as to why friendships end.
我收到一个读者的电子邮件，他在邮件中问到，为什么有些友谊 不管你多么想维系它却
还是会终结，该读者说她曾在我发表的一篇文章《友谊之谜》中简单过这个问题。 正如
我在文章中所说，对于友谊是如何开始的、为什么有些友谊会终结这类问题，我认为没
有简 单的答案，虽然我在别的文章中《拥有一个朋友》和《做一个朋友》常识回答过前
两个问题，但是，我任 然对那些经久不衰的友谊感到惊讶，也对那些逝去的友谊感到失
望。即便如此，我还是要在文本中对为什 么友谊会终结提出一些我的见解
2 My simple answer is that friendships end because the

situations friends are in or even the friends themselves change.我的回答很简
单，友谊终结是因为朋友处境的改变，或甚至是因朋友自身的变化

Others have similar answers. 其他人可能也有相似的说法First, the situations
friends face may change. 首先，朋友面临的境遇有可能改变The decision to
relocate for a new school or job cannot help but不得不 affect影响 a
friendship.因进一个新的学校或有一份新的工作二决定搬家，这就不能不影响到友谊
Likewise同样的, if a friend is in an accident, develops an illness, or loses
someone close, these situations cannot help but affect a friendship. 同样，
如果朋友出了事故，患了疾病或失去亲人，这些情况也不能不影响友谊Does a
friendship need to end because of these changes?基于这些原因幼体就要终结吗
No, but it’ll require adjustments that one or both friends might not be
willing to make.不，但这就需要作出相应的调整 ，然而一方或双方却不可能不愿作
出这样的调整

3 Second, the friends themselves may change. 其次，朋友自身可能在变A
significant reason that friendships often end when friends are apart分开
for

an extended长期的 period of time (for summer camp, college, etc.)

is that one or both of the friends change.朋友长时间不在一起（如参加夏令营、
上大学等）友谊常常会终止的一 个重要原因是一方或双方的改变 I think it hurts less

when both friends change, because then the breakup is more

often mutual彼此的，相互的 and so both friends get closure by both deciding

to let go and move forward in their lives without each other. 我认为当朋友
双方都在改变时，其伤害较轻，因为这时的分手往往是相互的， 上方都决定不在交往，
从此各奔东西，让友谊终结

What tends有什么倾向 to hurt most is when just one friend changes.当这有
一方改变时，造成的伤害最重 One friend might change social circles, become
involved使参与 in new social organizations, start to date, get a pet, or take
on决定做 some other venture项目或事业 that consumes消耗 more time
and passion.一方也许换了交际 的圈子、加入了新的社会组织、开始谈恋爱、养了一只
宠物或者从事某个更费时间、更需激情的有风险的 事业 Again, a friendship can
endure these changes, unless one or both of the friends for some reason
decide not to invest the time and energy involved in the adjustment period.
当然，友谊是经得起这些变化的，除非一方或双方由于某种原因决定不再友谊调整期内