nakajima46条荧光笔金句来自儿童心理学奠基之作《孩子挑战》

2021年1月20日发(作者：worm是什么意思)
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条荧光笔金句来自儿童心理学奠基之作《孩子：挑战》






《孩子：
挑战》
被它的读者封为
“画的全是 重点”
的书，
此书金句满地，
诸如
“孩子需要鼓励，
就像植物需要水 ”
“父
母一旦开口说教，孩子就会自动成为聋子”这样的句子比比
皆是，让人时时有用 荧光笔标出来，用粗线划出来，打印出
来挂在墙上的冲动。

本荧光金句由
3 3
位童书妈妈读书会成员及冯文红女士贡献，
均为他们在阅读儿童心理学奠基之作《孩子：挑战 》时叩动
他们内心的金句子。这也是该书的核心精华所在。

孟洁和冯文红特地根据英 文原版做了中英文对照版本，便于
大家学教育的同时，学学英文（我就是这样学的）
。现与各< br>位书友分享，请记得分享你的荧光金句。


1


Equality means that each decides for himself.
平等，
就是每个人
为自己做决定的权利。



2

Inorder for everyone to have freedom, we must have order.
And order bears with itcertain restrictions and obligations.
为了让每个人都能够拥有和享受自由，我们需要规则，规则
会产生限制和责任。



3


Well- definedrestrictions give a sense of security and a
certainty of function within thesocial structure.
清晰和明确的界限，能给人安全感，让人清楚自己在社会结
构中的位置和职责。



4

The popular practice of letting children have unrestricted
freedom has made tyrant3 of children and slaves of the
children enjoy all the freedom while their parents
assume all the responsibilities! This is hardly democracy.
当今一
个普遍现象，是家长给予孩子无限自由，结果孩子 成了“小
霸王”
，父母成了孩子的仆人。孩子享受所有的自由和权利，
而家长则承担所 有的责任和义务，着根本不是民主。




5


A misbehaving child is a discouraged child
needs continuous encouragement just as a plant needs water.
一
个行为不良的孩子，是个气馁的孩子。孩子需要鼓励 ，就像
植物需要水。




6



A baby who is happy only when she is the center of
attention is not a truly happy baby. Genuine happiness is
notdependent upon the attention of others but arises from within
oneself as aresult of self-sufficiency.
一个只 有得到别人关注才
快乐的人，不是真正快乐的人。真正的快乐不需要建立在他
人的关注上，而是 发自内心，感受到内在的满足。




7


Children need to learn how to take pain in their stride.
A bruised knee willmend: bruised courage may last a lifetime.
生
活中一定会发生打击和伤害， 孩子们要学习怎样面对痛苦，
并大步跨越痛苦。受伤的膝盖会痊愈，而挫伤的勇气则会终
生留下 伤疤。




8


We can build only on strength, noton weakness.
我们要
将注意力放在长处而不是短处上面。





9

We are not working for perfection, but only for
improvement.
我们要的是进步，而不是完美。



10

Remember,one cannot build on weakness-only on
strength.
没有人能在脆弱中成长，成长需要力量和坚强。




11

He is

an individual and makes his own choices and
decisions. We cannot takeresponsibility for this; it belongs to the
child.

孩子是一个独 立的个体，可以为自己做选择，做决定。我们
不能担负为孩子做决定的责任，这个责任和权利是孩子的。



12


No amount of punishment will bring about lasting
submission. Today
’
s children are willing to take any amount of
punishment in order to assert their
“
rights
”没有哪种惩罚能< br>得到持久的服从。现在的孩子宁可受到惩罚，也要维护自己
的权力。




13


We do not have the right to assume the responsibilities
of our children, nor do we have the right to take the
consequence of theiracts. These belong to them .
我们没有权利
替孩子担负责任，也没有权利替他们收拾残局，因为这些都
是他们自己 的事。



14


We mustrepeatedly remind
ourselves,
“
I have no right to punish a person with status
equalto mine, but I do have the obligation to guide and direct
my child.

I do not have the right to impose my will-butI do
have the obligation not to give in to his undue demands .
”
我们需
要经常提醒自己：
“我没有权利惩罚一个和我享有同等地位
人，我有责任引导我的孩子。我没有权利强迫他人接受我的
意愿，我有义务不对他人的过分要求妥协。
”



15


Childrencan learn limitations only through firm insistence.
只有
稳固的坚持才能让孩子学会正确的界限。



16



Suchacts of pressure must always be accompanied by
giving the child a choice.
给孩子压力的行为，
必须同时伴随给
孩子选择的机会和权利。



17


If therelationship between parents and child is at all
friendly, the child is likely to response.
如果父母和孩子的关系
友好，孩子会更加乐意响应。



18



Only when we have
confidence in a child and his ability
，
can we show respect for
him.
只有当我们 信任孩子，信任他的能力时，才能真正表现
出对他的尊重。



19



We are constantly correcting, constantly admonishing.
Such an approach shows lack of faith in our children; it is
humiliating and discouraging. With all this emphasis on the
negative, where can we expect the child to find the energy to
proceed toward achievement?
我们不停地指出孩子的错误，不
停告诫他们……这样的方式事实上是 在表现出我们对孩子
没有信心，这会让所有人沮丧和气馁。如果我们的关注点都
在负面事情上， 我们怎么可能期望孩子找到通向正面和成功
的方向和力量源泉？



20




When constantly corrected, the child not only gets
the feeling that he is always wrong but may become fearful of
making a mistake.
由于我们不断对孩子进行指正，
不但会让孩子觉得他经常出错，而且还让孩子变得害怕出错。



21



Children need to be recognized as good children who
misbehave because they are unhappy or have found that is
paysoff.
我们必须 明白，
所有的孩子都是好孩子，
他们行为不
良是因为他们不快乐，或者发现不良行为有 好处。



22




Routine is to a child what walls are to a house; it gives
boundaries and dimensions to his life. No child feels
comfortable in a situation in which he doesn
’
t know exactly
what to e gives a feeling of security. An
established routine also provides asense of order from which
freedom grow.
规律对孩子来说就像房子的 墙，赋予生活的界
限和范围。没有哪个孩子能在无法预知和期待的生活中过得