靴子英文2015四级阅读段落信息匹配题及答案解析(4)

2021年1月20日发(作者：颠簸)
2015
四级阅读段落信息匹配题及答案解析
(4)



The Art of Friendship



A) One evening a few years ago I found myself in an anxiety. Nothing was really wrong
my family and I were healthy, my career was busy and successful -- I was just feeling
vaguely down and in need of a friend who could raise my spirits, someone who would meet
me for coffee and let merant until the clouds lifted. I dialed my best friend, who now lives
across the country in California, and got her voicemail. That's when it started to dawn on
me -- lonesomeness was at the root of my dreariness. My social life had dwindled to almost
nothing, but somehow until that moment I'd been too busy to notice. Now it hit me hard.
My old friends, buddies since college or even childhood, know everything about me; when
they left, they had taken my context with them.



B) Research has shown the long-range negative consequences of social isolation on
one's health. But my concerns were more short-term. I needed to feel understood right
then in the way that only a girlfriend can understand you. I knew it would be wrong to
expect my husband to replace my friends: He couldn't, and even if he could, to whom would
I then complain about my husband? So I resolved to acquire new friends -- women like me
who had kids and enjoyed rolling their eyes at the worlda little bit just as I did. Since I'd be
making friends with more intention than I'd ever given the process, I realized I could be
selective, that I could in effect design my own social life. The down side, of course, was that
I felt pretty frightened.



C) After all, it's a whole lot harder to make friends in midlife that it is when yon're
younger -- a fact woman I've spoken with point out again and again. As Leslie Danzig, 41, a
Chicago theater director and mother, sees it, when you're in your teens and 20s, you're
more or less friends with everyone unless there's a reason not to be. Your college
roommate becomes your best pal at least partly due to proximity. Now there needs to be a
reason to be friends.
far as to call them friends. Comfort isn't enough to sustain a real friendship,



D) At first, finding new companions felt awkward. At 40 I couldn't run up to people the
way my4-year-old daughters do in the playground and ask,
time you start anew relationship, you're vulnerable again,
founder and CEO of the Stress Institute, in Atlanta.
into my life?' It makes us self-conscious.



E) Fortunately, my discomfort soon passed. I realized that as a mature friend seeker
my vulnerability risk was actually pretty low. If someone didn't take me up on my offer, so
what: I wasn't in junior high, when I might have been rejected for having the wrong clothes
or hair. At my age I have amassed enough self- esteem to realize that I have plenty to offer.



F) We're all so busy, in fact, that mutual interests -- say, in a project, class, or cause that
we already make time for -- become the perfect catalysts for bringing us in contact with
candidates for camaraderie. Michelle Mertes, 35, a teacher and mother of two in Wausau,
Wisconsin, says anew friend she made at church came as a pleasant surprise.
school I chose friends based on their popular-ity and how being part of their circle might
reflect on me. Now's it's our shared values and activities that count.
with whom she organized the church's youth programs, is nothing like her but their drive
and organizational skills make them ideal friends.



G) Happily, as awkward as making new friends can be, self-esteem issues do not factor
in -- or if they do, you can easily put them into perspective. Danzig tells of the mother of a
child in her son's pre- school, a tall, beautiful woman who is married to a big-deal rock
musician.
people. But once I got to know her, she turned out to be pretty laid-back and friendly.
the end there was no chemistry between them, so they didn't become good pals.
that we weren't each other's type, but it wasn't about hierarchy.
about, it seems, is reflecting the person you've become (or are still becoming) back at
yourself, thus reinforcing the progress you've made in your life.



H) Harlene Katzman, 41, a lawyer in New York City, notes that her oldest friends knew
her back when she was less sure of herself. As much as she loves them, she believes they
sometimes respond to is-sues in light of who she once was. An old chum has the goods on
you. With recently made friends, you can turn over a new leaf.



I) A new friend, chosen right, can also help you point your boat in the direction you
want to go. Hanna Dershowitz, 39, an attorney and mother in Los Angeles, found that a new
acquaintance from workwas exactly what she needed in a friend. In addition to liking and
respecting Julia, Dershowitz had a feeling that the fit and athletic younger woman would
help her to get in shape.



J) While you're busy making new friends, remember that you still need to nurture your
old ones. We asked Marla Paul, author of The Friendship Crisis: Finding, Making, and
Keeping Friends When You
important relationships. Keep in touch. Your friends should be a priority; schedule regular
lunch dates or coffee catch-up sessions, no matter how busy you are. Know her business.
Keep track of important events in a friend's life and show your support. Call or e-mail to let
her know you're thinking of her. Speak your mind. Tell a friend (politely) if something she
did really upset you. If you can't be totally honest, then you need to reexamine the
relationship. Accept her flaws. No one is perfect, so work around her quirks --she's
chronically late, or she's a bit negative -- to cut down on frustration and fights. Boost her
ego. Heartfelt compliments make everyone feel great, so tell her how much you love her
new sweater or what a great job she did on a work project.



46. Leslie Danzig thought making friends at one's middle age needed some reasons.



47. A well-chosen new friend can help you go in the direction that you like.



48. A few years ago the author felt lonely and depressed when she phoned her best
friend in another city who was much wanted then but unavailable.



49. According to Kathleen Hall, one might feel sensitive in the first curse of making
new friends.



50. Midlife friendship can help you realize your direction of life and reinforce the
progress you've made in your life.



51. In Mafia Paul's book, to be a better friend, you should keep track with your fiiends,
care for your friend's job, express yourself, accept her flaws and compliment your friend for
her/his good dressing and job.



52. For the author, a girl friend might be the right person to under
erase her negative feeling.



53. According to Michelle Metes, midlife friendship is based on the shared values and
activities



54. As a mature friend seeker, the author finds herself with enough confidence to offer
and take rejection with grace.



55. With newly made friends, you can have a chance to take on a new look in your life.



Section B



交友之道



A)
数年前的一天晚上，我发现自己陷入了焦虑中。事实上，一切事情祁 如常，我和
家人都很健康
;
我工作忙碌，事业有成。我只是隐隐约约感到情绪很低落， 急需一个朋友
能给我打打气，跟我喝杯咖啡，听我尽情发泄直到烟消云散。我最好的朋友住在加州
—
这
个国家的另一端。我拨通了她的电话，却听到要求留言的录音。阴影从此开始笼罩着我，
孤独是我沮丧的根源。我的社交生活已经减少到几乎没有，但不知何故，直到那一该，我
才注意 到这一点。现在，这种感觉却狠雏地撞击着我。戈的那些老朋友们，从大学甚至孩
提时代就已深交的密友 ，对我了如指掌，但他们一离开，也把我生活的环境一并带走了。