英文顿号研究生英语阅读教程(基础级2版)课文13及其翻译

2021年1月20日发(作者：快餐盒)

Laws
(Principle)
of Lasting Love
By Paul Pearsail

headmaster: n.; principal (a. n.), president/ dean

[1]
During
my
25
years
as
a
marital
therapist
(consultant),
I
have
seen
hundreds
of
people
disappointed over (about) unfulfilling (unsuccessful) relationships (marriage). I have seen passion
turn to (become) poison. I have grieved with patients for the love they lost or never found. (bare
infinitive/ Love is blind)
[2]

seemed
to
love
so
much
(deeply),
but
now
it's
gone,
one
woman
lamented
to
me.

can't marriage be more than this?
[3]
It
can
(be
colorful/
rich).
I
was
once
invited
to
the
60th
anniversary
celebration
of
a
remarkable
(worth
mentioning)
couple.
I
asked
the
husband,
Peter,
if
he
ever
felt
lonely
and
wondered where the love between him and Lita had gone. Peter laughed and said,
where your love went, you forgot that you are the one who makes (cultivate/ develop) it. Love is not
out there (waiting for you); it's in here between Lita and me.
[4] I know we can love deeply, tenderly and lastingly (forever). I have seen such love, and I
have felt such love myself. Here are the laws (keys) I have discovered for such lasting and loving
relationships:
[5] Put time (invest) where love is. A fulfilling (successful) marriage begins when two people
make time together their No. 1 priority. If we hope to find

(true) love, we must first find (spare, vt.)
time for loving.
[6] Unfortunately (unluckily), current (present) psychology rests on (based on) the model of the
independent ego. To make a lasting marriage we have to overcome self-centeredness (selfishness).
We
must
go
beyond
what
psychologist
Abraham
Maslow
called

to

[7] Many couples have experienced a tragic moment that taught them to value the time together.
One husband related (said) how he sat trapped in his car after a crash. His wife was outside, crying
and
banging
on
the
window.

thought
I
was
going
to
die
before
we'd
(had)
had
enough
time
together,
now, and those hours are sacred.
[8]
In
crisis,
become
as
one.
Just
after
a
couple
left
my
office
one
evening,
I
heard
what
sounded like a gunshot. I looked out the window and saw the couple backing (withdrawing) toward
their car, and the shadow of a large
figure near a street light. Clinging
together, the husband and
wife kept backing away. The figure quickened his pace toward them, and the couple joined hands
and ran to their car.
[9] As I dialed security (police), the figure came closer, and I saw it was one of our guards. I
later discovered that the
know that. Like herd (hunted) animals, they had reacted to danger by coming together, in a
caution circle
[10]
When
I
was
struggling
with
cancer
a
few
years
ago,
my
wife
and
I
formed
our
own

caution
circle
Anytime
(whenever)
a
doctor
came
with
news
of
my
progress,
my
wife
would
join
with
me
in
a
mutual
embrace
(hug).
The
reports
were
seldom
good
during
the
early
phases
(stages)
of
my
illness,
and
one
day
a
doctor
brought
particularly
(especially)
frightening
news.
Gazing
at
his
clipboard,
he
murmured,

doesn't
look
like
you're
going
to
make
it
(=succeed).
[11] Before I could ask a question of this doomsayer, my wife stood up, handed me my robe,
adjusted the tubes attached to my body and said,
health.
As
(when)
she
helped
me
struggle
to
the
door,
the
doctor
approached
us.

back,
demanded (ordered) my wife.
[12] As (When) we walked together down the hall, the doctor attempted (tried) to catch up with
us.
who really
knows
what
is
going on.
Then she
held
up her hand to
the
doctor.

any
closer to us.
[13] The two of us moved as one. We fled
(flee->fleet/ escaped) to the safety and hope of a
doctor
who
did
not
confuse
diagnosis
with
verdict.
I
could
never
have
made
that
walk
toward
wellness (safety/ health) alone. [Two heads are better than one]
[14] Take a loving look. How we see our partners often depends more on how we are than how
they are. Husbands and wives are not audience, but participant observers in each other's lives.
[15]
once told me.
couch potato and watches ball games more than he watches me. He's gone from stud to spud.
[16]
When we got married, you were beautiful. Now you wear that old robe. If I've gone from stud to
spud,
then
you've
gone
from
doll
(angel)
to
drudge
(
黄
脸
婆
/
豆
腐
皮
).
(intelligent/
handsome/beautiful/ considerate)
[17]
This
hurtful,
infantile
argument
illustrates
(shows)
how
spouses,
instead
of
looking
for
love, may look for flaws. It is a way of seeing.
[18] Author (Writer) Judith Viorst once wrote,
as gorgeous as Robert Redford, as pure (innocent) as Solzhenitsyn, as funny (interesting/ humorous)
as Woody Allen, as athletic as Jimmy Connors, and as smart as Albert Einstein. Love is when you
realize
he's
as
gorgeous
as
Woody
Allen,
as
smart
(clever)
as
Jimmy
Connors,
as
funny
as
Solzhenitsyn,
as
athletic
as
Albert
Einstein,
and
nothing
like
Robert
Redford
in
any
category
(degree) -- but you'll take (accept) him anyway.
[19] This law of lasting love instructs (teaches) us to look with instead of for love.
[20] Try another perspective.
wife used to say.
Out=see sth. as].
[21]

can
you
say
that?
her
husband
would
answer.

with
any
intelligence
could see what a pain (nuisance) your mother is.
[22]
This
argument
illustrates
(show)
how
some
people
spend
their
marriages
struggling
to
change a spouse's mind. People in lasting-love marriages begin with the premise that there are many
realities. They learn to accept different points of view. [spend time / money doing sth.]
[23]
When
this
couple
broke
free
of
their
one-reality
trap,
their
problems
were
solved.

mother is a loving, caring pain in the neck,
[24] As another husband said of
(comment) his
wife,
I
never could. I do the same (thing) for her. We make a marital point of view between the two of us
that is totally different from either one of us.
[25] The lasting marriage is never sure of the separate
has complete confidence that the relationship will grow in a never-ending process of learning.
[26] Look out for No. 2. There is a powerful healing energy that emanates from loving. Lasting
love can learn to sense (feel) it, send (give) it and make it grow. We are energized (motivated) by
love if we put our energy into loving.

[27] Bad energy springs from (stem from) conflicts that arise (occurred) when two egos collide.
When I watch husbands and wives argue with each other, I want to shout:
start loving!
win for your marriage.
[28]
Marriage
is
designed
(intended)
primarily
for
giving
rather
than
taking.
It
is
meant
(intended)
to
be
a
permanent
union
of
two
unselfish
people.
As
one
husband
told
me,

old
saying was look out for No. 1. But we've learned to look out for No. 2. If you fight for yourself,
only you can win. When you fight for your marriage, you both win.

About the author
Paul Pearsail
is an American contemporary author, director of problems of Daily Living Clinic
in Sinai Hospital of Detroit, Michigan, lecturer at Henry Ford Community College and Wayne State
University
and
director
of
Kinsey
Summer
Institute.
His
major
writings
include
Master
Your
Emotions

and Improve Your Health
(1986),
Super Marital Sex: Loving for Life
(1987),
Super Joy:
Delight in Daily Living
(1988), etc.

Exercises
I. Reading Comprehension
Answer the following questions or complete the following statements
.
1. A couple who wonder where their love has gone probably
_____.
A. forget that it is they who created the love
B. have never been able to find love
C. have never had fulfilled relationships
D. are too passionate
2. What is the most important thing a couple is supposed to do to have a fulfilling marriage?
A. To rest on independent ego.
B. To set aside time for loving.
C. To go beyond love.
D. To learn where love is.
3. What has the husband trapped in a car accident learned about love?
A. How sacred love is.
B. How tragic an accident is.
C. The time with his wife is precious.
D. More promises to his wife are necessary.
4. Which of the following best explains
A. A couple are more cautious when they are together.
B. It refers to people's herd-animal-like reaction to danger.
C. It is a crisis that is related to both husband and wife.
D. A couple become more closely united into one in times of danger.
5. After hearing the doctor's comment, the author's wife
_____.
A. believed that the doctor made the diagnosis with evil intentions
B. concluded that doctor was no good to her husband
C. decided to quit any medical treatment immediately
D. demanded to have another favorable verdict
6. Which of the following best illustrates
A. Love me, love my dog.
B. Love is blind.
C. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
D. Beauty and chastity (honesty) seldom agree.
7. Spouses looking for flaws instead of love often _____.
A. become observers instead of participants in each other's lives
B. become couch potatoes and go from stud to spud
C. get to know more about each other's weakness
D. get mixed up in hurting, babyish arguments
8. The phrase
_
____.

A. some people spend their marriages struggling to change a spouse's mind
B. short-lived marriages start with the premise that there are many realities
C. the lasting marriage is never sure of the separate
D. a couple make a marital point of view that is totally different from either one
9. What does the author mean by
A. To learn to sense love and make it grow.
B. To be energized by love.
C. To learn to love instead of fighting for oneself.
D. To put energy into loving.
10. Which of the following statements is true according to the text?
A. One must try to win in his/her marriage.
B. Love is lost when one feels lonely.
C. Lasting love is found in all marriages.
D. Marriage is more of giving than taking.

II. Vocabulary
A.
Read
die
following
sentences
and
decide
which
of
die
four
choices
Mow
each
sentence
is
closest hi meaning to the underlined word
.

1. The whole nation grieved for the death of the their president John Kennedy.
A. was distressed

B. was distributed

C. was defeated

D. was diminished
2. The central government collided with city parliament over its industrial plans.

A. countered


B. conflicted



C. corresponded

D. contested
3. A subtle influence emanates from the teacher upon his students.
A. originates


B. suffers



C. vanishes (disappear)

D. transmits
4.
At
the
press
conference,
the
crazy
(mad)
teenagers
fully
displayed
their
infatuation
(foolishness) for their favorite movie stars. (fans)
A. delusion (view-illusion)

B. passion

C. miracle (->miraculous)

D. inflation
5. Temples, mosques, churches and synagogues are all sacred buildings.
A. spiritual





B. earthly




C. holy (sacred)




D. secular (chronic) (circular argument)
6. The dinner table was gorgeous with silver, rare china, and flowers. (going out to dine/ diner/
dinner/ supper)
A. beautiful


B. luxurious


C. lavish


D. abundant (adj. enough)
7. Mr. Nathan lamented the fact that for 40 years Israel had been saying it had no one to talk to
and now that (since) the other side was prepared to talk, Israel refused.

A. recognized

B. complained


C. stated


D. revealed
8. Western efforts to keep criminal money out of the banking system are based on the premise
that banks can identify their customers, even when they act through nominees.
A. constitution


B. insurance



C. prediction (foretell)

D. presupposition (presume=think)
9. The committee undertook a comprehensive diagnosis of the city's problem. (commit suicide/
crime/ do)
A. embrace (=hug)

B. survey



C. investigation

D. analysis (->analyze)
10. The frequent hurtful, infantile arguments between couples will inevitably lead to disaster.
A. innocent (->ignorant)

B. mutual



C. simplistic

D. childish

B.
Choose
the
best
word
or
expression
from
the
list
given
for
each
blank.
Use
each
word
or
expression only once and make proper changes where necessary
.

rest on


gaze at

break free

spring from

verdict
perspective

marital

permanent

fulfilling

ego

1. I used to gaze at it and wish that I could have a dog just like the one in the picture. (gape/
gap)
2. If you manage to break free from your attacker, run to the nearest source of help, whether it's
a house with lights on, an open garage, pub (public house/ inn) or shop, or a police or fire station --
any place where you can find people, a telephone, weapons or cover.
3. The boys' attention did not spring from (stem from) concern (worry) for Alec but concern for
themselves if Alec was cut (wounded/ hurt) and needed to see the nurse.
4. His lawyers will almost certainly appeal against the verdict (appeal court).

5
Perhaps
we
are
now
in
a
position
(ready/
willing)
to
give,
from
a
parental
perspective,
an
alternative
(choice)
interpretation
(explanation)
of
what
exactly
it
means
to

to
terms
with
(tolerate/ accept)
6. Not only had the children suffered the loss of a parent but the family was further fragmented
by the absence of one or more children as a direct or indirect result of the marital breakdown.
7. China's foreign policy rests on (based on) the principle of equality and mutual benefit.
8. This high quality wax gives car permanent protection against acid rain.
9. We know there are senses (feelings) that feel good, that status and ego are important, and that
money is not a substitute for health, happiness, companionship, or emotional security.
10. The past (last) 10 years have been the happiest and most fulfilling (successful) of his life.

III. Cloze
There are ten blanks in the following passage. Read the passage ea fully and choose the best
answer front the four chokes given below the passage
.

be at one
’
s prime time

In the past,
young people in
America usually
lived with their parents
until
they
got
married.
Today, some still

1 do. Yet most young people live (lead) a more independent life. They have a job.
They travel. They rent or own their own apartment or house. They wait longer to get married.

2
While
(they
were)
waiting,
they
date
(go
dating).
[to
find
oneself=to
find
the
proper
place
for
oneself]
Often a friend will plan a meeting between two unmarried people who
do not
know

3 one
another. This is called a

4 blind. They just have never
seen each other. [be in the darkness]
However, most unmarried people have to find their own

5 dates. Many go to public eating,
drinking
or
dancing
places.
Every
city
in
America
has
them.
Some
places
are

6
popular
with
young people. Others are for older people.
Many Americans want to go where they are sure they can meet people with similar

7 interests.
For example, they may go to a bookstore. Some bookstores in America now serve coffee and food.
Many

8
offer

special
programs
(project)
and
social
activities
for
single
people.
Other
singles
join health clubs to exercise and to meet people.

9 Or, they may join groups for people who like to
take long walks or watch birds. When they

10 get along well enough, they may decide to spend
the rest of their lives together.
1. A. are



B. hold



C. do



D. go
2. A. While wait

B. While waiting
C. When waited

D. When to wait
3. A. each time

B. one by one

C. one another

D. the other
4. A. blind


B. dumb



C. foolish


D. lame
5. A. mates


B. couple


C. colleagues

D. dates
6. A. potential

B. popular


C. populous


D. positive
7. A. intensity

B. intention


C. interests


D. interaction
8. A. offer


B. award


C. give



D. rent
9. A. Too


B. However


C. Or



D. So
10. A. get off

B. get along


C. live through

D. live up to

IV
. Translation
Put the following parts into Chinese
.

1. A fulfilling marriage begins when two people make time together their No. 1 propriety. If we
hope to find love, we must first find time for loving.
当两个人都把抽时间多聚在一 起当成各自的第一要事，一个美满的婚姻才会开始。如果
我们希望去寻找爱，首先我们必须找时间去爱。

2.
Unfortunately,
current
psychology
rests
on
the
model
of
the
independent
ego.
To
make
a
lasting
marriage
we
have
to
overcome
self- centeredness.
We
must
go
beyond
what
psychologist
Abraham
Maslow
called

to

We
have
to
learn
to
put
time
where love is.
令人遗憾的是，目前心理学都注重独立的自我模式。要使婚姻持久，我们就必须克服以
自我为中心。我们必须超越亚伯拉罕
?
马斯洛声称的“自我实现”，而要“共同实现”。我们< br>要学会把时间放在爱上。

3. How we see our partners often depends more on how we are than how they are. Husbands
and wives are not audience, but participant observers in each other's live.
我们 如何看待对方通常更多地取决于我们而不是他们。丈夫和妻子不是观众，而是相互
生活中的参与者和观察 者。

4.
This
argument
illustrates
how
some
people
spend
their
marriages
struggling
to
change
a
spouse's mind. People in lasting-love marriages begin with the premise that there are many realities.
They learn to accept different points of view.
这一争吵表明一些人如何把婚 姻耗费在努力改变对方的想法上面。在爱情持久的婚姻中，
人们的出发点是：婚姻有许多现实问题，他们 要学着去接受不同的观点。

5 As one husband told me,
out for No. 2. If you fight for yourself, only you can win. When you fight for your marriage, you
both win.
正如一位丈夫告诉我的：“俗话说要争先做主。现在我们学会了退让一步当 第二。如果
你为自己奋斗，成功的仅仅是你自己。当你为自己的婚姻而奋斗时
,
你们就 会双赢。”


6.
There
is
a
powerful
healing
energy
that
emanates
from
loving.
Lasting
love
can
learn
to
sense it, send it and make it grow. We are energized by love if we put our energy into loving.
爱能释放出强大的治愈能量 。持久的爱知道去感悟，去给予，使这份爱成长壮大。如果
我们把精力投入爱，我们就能从爱中汲取力量 。

7. Marriage is designed primarily for giving rather than taking. It is meant to be a permanent
union of two unselfish people.
婚姻的本质是给予而不是索取。它应该是两个无私个体的永久结合。


V
. Oral Practice and Discussion

1. What are the laws for lasting and loving relationship discovered by the author?

2. What are the causes of marriage problems in the modern society?
3. How do you understand the advice
4. To solve the marriage problems mentioned in
the text, what are
your proposals other than
those given by the author?
5. Do you believe love can be romantic while marriage has to be practical? Why?

VOCABULARY ITEMS
1.
therapist
:
n.
one
who
specializes
in
the
provision
of
a
particular
therapy
临床医生
;
doctor-.surgeon->specialist
2.
unfulfilled
: adj. unhappy or unsatisfactory
令人不快的，令人不满意的
; be full of sth./ fill
sth. with sth. else/
fulfill=accomplish/ achieve->:accomplishmen/ achievement

3.
grieve
: v. to cause to be sorrowful; distress
伤心，悲痛
; grief (n.)