互助词LoveandLovingRelationships英汉双语[完美版]

2021年1月21日发(作者：brittle)
Unit4
The
following
text
is
extracted
from
Marriages
and
Families
by
Nijole
V
Benokraitis. The book has been used as a text book for sociology courses and women
studies
in
a
number
of
universities
in
the
United
States.
It
highlights
important
contemporary
changes
in
society
and
the
family
and
explores
the
choices
that
are
available
to
family
members,
as
well
as
the
constraints
that
many
of
us
do
not
recognize. It examines the diversity of American families today, using cross-cultural
and multicultural comparisons to encourage creative thinking about the many critical
issues that confront the family of the twenty fist century.

Love and Loving Relationships
Nijole V
. Benokraitis

1.

Love-as
both
an
emotion
and
a
behavior-is
essential
for
human
survival-
The
family
is
usually
our
earliest
and
most
important
source
of
love
and
emotional
support. Babies and children deprived of love have been known to develop a wide
variety
of
problems-
for
example,
depression,
headaches,
physiological
impairments, and neurotic and psychosomatic difficulties- that sometimes last a
lifetime.
In
contrast,
infants
who
are
loved
and
cuddled
typically
gain
more
weight, cry less, and smile more. By five years of age, they have been found to
have significantly higher IQs and to score higher on language tests.

2.

Much
research
shows
that
the
quality
of
care
infants
receive
affects
how
they
later get along with friends, how well they do in school, how they react to new
and
possibly
stressful
situations,
and
how
they
form
and
maintain
loving
relationships
as
adults.
It
is
for
these
reasons
that
people's
early
intimate
relationships within their family of origin are so critical. Children who are raised
in impersonal environments (orphanage, some foster homes, or unloving families)
show
emotional
and
social
underdevelopment,
language
and
motor
skills
retardation, and mental health problems.

3.

Love
for
oneself,
or
self-love,
is
also
essential
for
our
social
and
emotional
development. Actress Mae West once said,
I loved myself.
quite insightful Social scientists describe self-love as an important oasis for self-
esteem.
Among
other
things,
people
who
like
themselves
are
more
open
to
criticism
and
less
demanding
of
others.
Fromm
(1956)
saw
self-love
as
a
necessary
prerequisite
for
loving
others.
People
who
don't
like
themselves
may
not
be
able
to
return
love
but
may
constancy
seek
love
relationships
to
bolster
their own poor self-images. But just what is love? What brings people together?
4.

Love is an elusive concept. We have all experienced love and feel we know what
it
is;
however,
when
asked
what
love
is,
people
give
a
variety
of
answers.
According to a nine- year-old boy, for example,
you have to run for your life.
talking about love for family members, friends, or lovers. Love has been a source
of inspiration, wry witticisms, and even political action for many centuries.

5.

Love
has
many
dimensions.
It
can
be
romantic,
exciting,
obsessive,
and
irrational-
It
can
also
be
platonic,
calming,
altruistic,
and
sensible.
Many
researchers feel that love defies a single definition because it varies in degree and
intensity
and
across
social
contexts.
At
the
very
least,
three
elements
are
necessary for a loving relationship: (1) a willingness to please and accommodate
the
other
person,
even
if
this
involves
compromise
and
sacrifice;
(2)
an
acceptance
of
the
other
person's
faults
and
shortcomings;
and
(3)
as
much
concern about the loved one's welfare as one's own. And, people who say they are


6.

In any type of love, caring about the other person is essential. Although love may,
involve
passionate
yearning,
respect
is
a
more
important
quality.
Respect
is
inherent in all love:
and in his own ways, and not for the purpose of serving me.
are missing, the relationship is not based on love. Instead, it is an unhealthy or
possessive
dependency
that
limits
the
lovers'
social,
emotional,
and
intellectual
growth.

7.

Love, especially long-term love, has nothing in common with the images of love
or .frenzied
sex
that
we
get
from
Hollywood,
television,
and
romance
novels.
Because
of
these
images,
many
people
believe
a
variety
of
myths
about
love.
These
misconceptions
often
lead
to
unrealistic
expectations,
stereotypes,
and
disillusionment.
In
fact,

love
is
closer
to
what
one
author
called

nor
thrilling
but
is
relatively
mundane
and
unromantic.
It
means
paying
bills,
putting
out
the
garbage,
scrubbing
toilet
bowls,
being
up
all
night
with
a
sick
baby, and performing myriad other ' oatmeal

8.

Some partners take turns stirring the oatmeal. Other people seek relationships that
offer candlelit gourmet meals in a romantic setting. Whether we decide to enter a
serious relationship or not, what type of love brings people together?

9.

What
attracts
individuals
to
each
other
in
the
first
place?
Many
people
believe
that
them together. Such beliefs are romantic but unrealistic. Empirical studies show
that cultural norms and values, not fate, bring people together We will never meet
millions of potential lovers because they are
rules on partner eligibility due ton factors such as age, race, distance, Social class,
religion, sexual orientation, health, or physical appearance.