fmcg是什么意思研究生英语第四单元

2021年1月21日发(作者：meow)
LOVE AND LOVING RELATIONSHIPS










































Nijole V
.Benokraitis
1.

Love- as
both
an
emotion
and
a
behavior-is
essential
for
human
survival.
The
family
is
usually
our
earliest
and
most
important
source
of
love
and
emotional
support.
Babies
and
children
deprived
of

love
have
been
known
to
develop
a
wide
variety
of
problems-for
example,
depression,
headaches,
physiological

impairment
,
and
neurotic

and
psychosomatic
difficulties-that sometimes last a lifetime. In contrast, infants who are loved
and
cuddled
typically gain more weight, cry less, and smile more. By five years of age, they
have been found to have significantly higher IQs and to score higher on language tests.

2.

Much research shows that the quality of care infants receive affects how they later get along
with
friends,
how
well
they
do
in
school,
how
they
react
to
new
and
possibly
stressful
situations,
and
how
they
form
and
maintain
loving
relationships
as
adults.
It
is
for
these
reasons that people
’
s early intimate relationships within their family of origin are so critical.
Children
who
are
raised
in
impersonal
environments
(orphanage,
some
foster
homes,
or
unloving families) show emotional and social underdevelopment, language and motor skills
retardation
, and mental health problems.

3.

Love
for
oneself,
or
self-love,
is
also
essential
for
our
social
and
emotional
development.
Actress
Mae
West
once
said,
“
I
never
loved
another
person
the
way
I
loved
myself.
”

Although
such
a
statement
may
seem
self-centered,
it
’
s
actually
quite
insightful.
Social
scientists describe self-love as an important basis for self-esteem. Among other things, people
who like themselves are more open to criticism and less demanding of others. Fromm (1956)
saw self-love as a necessary
prerequisite
for loving others. People who don
’
t like themselves
may not be able to return love but may constantly seek love relationships to
bolster
their own
poor self-images. But just what is love? What brings people together?

4.

Love
is
an
elusive

concept.
We
have
all
experienced
love
and
feel
we
know
what
it
is;
however,
when
asked
what
love
is,
people
give
a
variety
of
answers.
According
to
a
nine-year-old boy, for example,
“
Love is like an
avalanche
where you have to run for your
life.
”

What
we
mean
by
love
depends
on
whether
we
are
talking
about
love
for
family
members, friends, or lovers. Love has been a source of inspiration,
wry witticisms
, and even
political action for many centuries.

5.

Love has many dimensions. It can be romantic, exciting,
obsessive
, and irrational. It also can
be
platonic
, calming,
altruistic
, and sensible. Many researchers feel that love defies a single
definition
because
it
varies
in
degree
and
intensity
and
across
social
contexts.
At
the
very
least, three elements are necessary for a loving relationship: (1) a willingness to please and
accommodate

the
other
person,
even
if
this
involves
compromise
and
sacrifice;
(2)
an
acceptance of the other person
’
s faults and shortcomings; and (3) as much concern about the
loved one
’
s welfares as one
’
s own. And people who say they are
“
in love
”
emphasize caring,
intimacy, and commitment.

6.

In any
type of
love, caring
about the other person is essential.
Although love may
involve