TED演讲素材之------1,为什么我停止观看A片？(英文演讲稿)

2021年1月26日发(作者：科长)
TED
演讲素材之
------1
，为什么我停止观看
A
片 ？
(
英文演讲稿
)
讲师：
Ran Gavrieli
编辑制作：
wikiejoo@

仅供学习参考



I stopped watching porn for two reasons basically. The first one was that porn brought so
much anger and violence into my private fantasies. These were anger and violence that were not
there
originally
to
begin
with,
and
I
did
not
want
it
for
me
anymore.
This
was
not
me
,
and
I
decided to just put an end to it. Easier said than done--I got it later about. The second reason was
that
I
came
to
realize
that
only
by
watching
porn
I
take
part
in
creating
a
demand
for
filmed
prostitution. Because that
’
s what porn really is: filmed prostitution.

Porn stands for prostitute; graphic stands for documentation. And prostitution was nobody
’
s
childhood
dream;
it
is
always
a
result
of
trouble
and
distress.
Now,
I
became
aware
of
that
gradually, when I was volunteering with men and women in prostitution, some of them victims of
human traffic, serving aid in brothels, under the bridge and street corners. You don
’
t really need
to
do
all
that
in
order
to
understand
how
this
mechanism
of
porn
and
prostitution
works.
Because
porn
is
a
genre
it
’
s
not
about erotica
or
healthy
sexual
communication.
It
is
all
about
male domination of women, sub-ordinance of women. Not only the sexual practice, but as a way
of being, as a genderhierarchy in this world.

If
we
were
to
ask
porn,
how
does
it
define
something
as
sexual?
What
qualifies,
what
defines something as sexual? Porn would laugh in our face. What defines sexual? Whatever men
find arousing----men find it arousing to choke a woman, to have a brutal sex without one touch,
hug, kiss, tender caress. Well then it is sexual. It arouses men to see a woman or child cry, it is
sexual. It arouses men to rape a woman; well, then it is sexual.
In every mainstream porn gallery on the web, we can find the rape category side by side
with
the
humiliation
category,
abuse
category,
crime
category
and
so
on.
This
is
all
as
if
this
regular
porn
is
not
already
filled
with
these
motives.
Even
in
its
mildest
version,
the
mildest
version of porn, what porn is showing us like, 80%, maybe 90% of the time is actually sex with no
hands involved. This is not how we authentically desire. Sorry, I
’
ll repeat that, i see your look. Sex
with no hands involved. Okay?
If you and I are not going to give up watching porn, the next thing you do watch you just
notice
that
porn
cameras
have
no
interest
in
capturing
any
normal
sexual
activities
such
as
petting, caressing, making out, touching, hugging, kissing. No. What porn cameras are into is the
penetration. So normally the composition will be a man and a woman, hopefully just one, ,
one man and one woman. His penis is inside her. Don
’
t be picky. It doesn
’
t matter where inside.
Somewhere
inside.
His
penis
is
somewhere
inside
her,
okay?
And
in
order
not
to
block
the
camera for doing this extreme close up on the penetration, he
’
s standing with his hands behind
his back most of the time. And the woman is in this --uncomfortable position and she need to
handle the penis inside her without damaging the hair or makeup or look down on her because
that
’
s money invested and time invested in her. Without disturbing his aggressive movement and
mainly without blocking the cameras, so the result is that we got two people having sex different
shapes
and
acrobatics
or
something.
But
they
’
re
having
sex
when
the
only
body
parts
that
actually touch each other are the penis and the part being penetrated. No hands involved.
Now I talked, I don
’
t know, 250-300 times a year, soldiers, students, one had ever
come
up
to
me
and
say,
“
Ran,
you
know
that
part
with
sex
with
no
hands
thing
that
was
my
authentic desire, like when I was 11 or 12, I never wanted to kiss or touch anybody. I was not
curious about that. It was all the penetration to begin with.
”
No one had ever said that-before
porn. After porn. In my private fantasies before watching porn, there was always a very strong
narrative
and
the
narrative
was
of
sensuality
and
mutuality
which
means
that
I
had
always
imagined what I would say to her? What would she possibly answer? What options do I have to
respond?
In real life it never works like I planned, but it was super important in my mind in term of
arousal, the build-up, the location, the setting, where will it? What are the circumstances of me
and her being alone? How will this bodily flaming between us will emerge step by step? It was
super
important,
before
porn.
After
making
a
habit
out
of
porn,
it
conquers
your
mind
and
it
invades your brain. And I lost my ability to imagine. Which means I found myself and I won
’
t be
too explicit, but trying to masturbate, just closing my eyes , trying to fantasize desperately about
something human and not making it because my head was bombarded with all of those images
of
women
being
violated
and
subordinated
and
forced
into
pretending
they
enjoyed
diabolic
sperm rituals, okay? So, this is pretty much the result. And we are all vulnerable to pornography.
It
’
s not just young people and we should be very careful, I think, with not only what we put into
our bodies in terms of food and nutrition, but with the nutrition of our mind. Because everything
we watch invades us. I
’
ll give you a short example from non-sexual areas.
I came the other night, I came back home and my beloved one was watching some cultural
junk. She was watching a karaoke show audition, the one with chairs spinning. We don
’
t have a
TV
set
back
home,
but
only
because
it
allows
us
to
falsely
present
ourselves
as
deep
and
profound
people.
I
’
ve
never
heard
of
that.
Master
Tommy
who?
Angeline?
We
watch
every
cultural
junk
possible,
okay?
Not
me,
not
her,
we
don
’
t
contemplate
about
existence.
We
download
stuff.
And
we
download
all
cultural
junk.
So
I
am
watching
this
20
minutes
karaoke
show. It was so boring and tedious. Two minutes talking, for minutes blabbering. I lost patience
after 20 minutes and I went off to take a shower and the most interesting part was in the shower.
Because what I found out there was myself in my most pathetic state ever. I
’
m going to share it
with
you.
I
want
to
feel
that
you
accept
and
love
me,
so
l
have
to
share
my
most
pathetic
moment and you have to accept it now.
I don
’
t know until I got over myself if it took me five, seven, ten minutes to realize that I am
standing under the water in the shower pondering severely what would
’
ve been my song for the
audition? Deep and profound, mind you. I won
’
t be doing this Rihanna or Lady Gaga
’
s. I will be
doing
Mercedes
Sosa
’
s
Como
UnPajaroLibre.
I
’
ll
be
doing
a
cover
for
Bon
Dylan
’
s
Blind
Willie
McTell. Ain
’
t that deep and profound? I had to realize that I
’
m an idiot because I have no talent
for music. More than that, I never wanted to be neither a musician nor a singer or songwriter.
This was never a part of my inner world of wishes, okay? But I
’
m a human being. What can I do? I
was watching that for 20 minutes. It entered my brain for a while. So if we take this example and
we just try to estimate the impact of 20 minutes of watching no matter what, how it invades our
mind and conquers our wanting
’
s and desires. Let
’
s just try to imagine or I can share it with you
orally
what
is
the
impact
of
20
minutes
of
watching
porn
once
or
twice
a
week,
nothing
unmoderated? It
’
s overtaking. Porn is in out household, whether we want it or not and I believe
that it does agree with out well- being.
Because we have internet in the western world over the place almost in every cellular phone