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How Family Rules Profoundly Affect Our
Lives
家庭的规则
,
如何深深地
影响我们生活的
1.P
erhaps
you don't think of your day-to-day activities in
the home as
You're more likely to think
of rules in terms of what you specifically tell
your
children, such as,
或许你不认为你的日常活动在家里为
“家庭规则。
”
你就更有可能认为规则至于
什么是你特别告诉你的孩子们
,
如
:
“你知
道这是一个规律
,
你不能跳上乐队家具
!
”
beyond that,
children also learn what is appropriate and
inappropriate by simply
absorbing what
goes on in the family from day to day and year to
year. From these
rules children
conclude what kind of rules they want for their
own lives, and for their
children.
但除此之外
,
孩子也知道什么是适当和不适当的事物可以通过简单地吸收家庭里
所发生的
,
每年一天比一天一年的。通过这些规则结论什么样的规则孩子他们想
要他们自己的生活
,
孩子。
I consider how this process
worked in my own life, I could use one phrase to
describe it:
exact words,
but all four of us children clearly understood
four basic ground rules,
each of which
was reinforced by its own set of rules.
当我考虑这个过程曾在我自己的生命里
,
我可以用一个词来描
述它
:
在费边的家
庭父亲知道最好的。
”我们的父母很少用那些是怎么说的
,
但所有四个我们孩子
们明白四个基本基本规则的
,
每个都以增强
自己的那套规则。
en must love and
respect their parents.
Don't question
the rules.
Do things the right way,
Do your chores unless it's your
birthday or you're sick.
Get good
grades in school.
孩子必须爱和尊重他们的父母。不要问规则。做
事情的正确方式
,
”费边。
“你的
家务
,
除非它是你的生日或者你病了。取得
好成绩在学校。
rules
best illustrate my parents' beliefs about
children. Children could not be
trusted
to learn naturally without a great deal of
direction and criticism. They needed
parents to teach them right and wrong.
So we learned the
which I think of as
methods on our own.
这些规则最好的说
明我的父母的信仰是关于儿童的。
孩子们可以学习不可以信赖
的
自然地没有大量的方向和批评。
他们需要父母教他们对与错。
所
以我们学到的
“正确”的方法来做任何工作
,
< br>我认为这是“费边道
,
“而不是鼓励替代方法发现
自己
we inquired why
we had to do something
request had to
be followed, the most frequent response was,
Sometimes we would get an answer, but I
was seldom satisfied. Yet absolute respect
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